The crazy eyed look was immediately apparent. He walked into the java shop I was relaxing in and began asking people for money. The owner of the shop was about to pounce. I gave the man money and after the guy left, the owner pounced on ME instead.
She said that he was just going to use that money to buy drugs. Judging by the wild look in the man’s eyes, I would have to guess that she was right.
In retrospect, the owner had a very good point. It is a bad idea to help feed an extreme addiction like that.
More recently, there was a lady who didn’t look quite as crazy but she was also not looking ‘right’ either. She had a story that she would whisper to people so that other people could not hear. That way if the person said, “no” to her. She could ask the next person. Everyone would wonder what she was telling other people. Not a bad strategy from a certain point of view.
She would whisper that she just ran out of gas and needed a couple of dollars to so she could get some gas to get home with. I didn’t think she was telling the truth judging by the strange whispering behavior. So, I declined to ‘help’ her.
Next week, she gave me the exact same story again. She obviously gave this story to so many people that she couldn’t remember who she had talked to before. And she probably made some good money doing this.
Addicted people often reach a point where they no longer care how their behavior appears to other people. They no longer care whether they appear to be telling the truth or lying and they no longer care if you believe them or not.
All that matters is if you give them money. If you won’t or don’t give them any money they will go ask someone else and they will continue asking until they get what they want.
Some may turn to stealing, even from each other.
The question becomes, do I help these people or not?
Alcohol and drug addictions can devolve people into exhibiting more and more animal like behaviors. The spiral is ever downward UNLESS the addicted person wakes up enough to beginning exerting WILL POWER to begin the ascent towards humanness and normal human behavior again.
Will power and choice are really the only weapons and shields we have to get by in this modern world with. Choice becomes the factor whereby a person’s character is ascertained. What do you choose to do in a tough spot? What do you choose to do or not do that gets you in that spot in the first place?
In the end, whatever the circumstance of our life is, we have to make choices. Those choices become the essence of character building or character destroying activities.
When we leave this world, we only have our character to take with us. Perhaps where we go at that point in time entirely depends on the character we developed or lost while here.
I encourage to think in these terms as often as possible and to do character building rather than character destroying activities.
Don’t give in to the prevailing hedonistic mentality of today’s world. Remember, there are consequences to everything and those consequences might extend living a terrible life here on Earth to continuing a similar existence into the future.
I met a drummer for a couple of very famous rock bands. He said that practicing Falun Gong helped him to defeat drug and alcohol addictions and continue playing drug free in an environment that was very drug and alcohol use promoting.
I think his story is a good one and I wanted to pass it along to you.
If you have your own experience about pan-handling addicts or if you have your own story about drug addiction, please use the comment or ‘leave a reply’ section below to tell us about your story.
Best wishes for the brightest future –